Articles for students and families transitioning into higher education.
As we grow into adulthood, the familiar dynamics of home life begin to shift. Whether you move out for college or stay at home throughout your studies, it’s common to live with your parents or guardians well into adulthood. This doesn’t mean you have to put your personal growth on pause, it means adapting your role within the household so you can continue to become independent while also benefitting from a supportive environment.
As a child, you may have been assigned chores or received rewards for helping around the house. As an adult, household tasks become part of daily life – unpaid, but essential. While living at home can make it easier to avoid these responsibilities, doing so will limit your personal growth. If you lived alone, you’d manage your laundry, cooking, and cleaning so it’s a good idea to start practicing those skills now.
If you’re unsure how to do something, like ironing a shirt or using the washing machine, ask for help. One benefit of living with family is having people around to support your learning.
In a busy household, it may make sense to divide some chores, especially shared tasks like taking out the bins or cleaning common areas. Try creating a schedule with your family that outlines who does what, and when. This ensures jobs are divided up equally and people are accountable for their own tasks. However, it’s important to remember that your personal space, like your bedroom, should always be your own responsibility.
Taking ownership of your time, health, and wellbeing is the heart of being an adult. While full autonomy looks different for everyone, you can start building self-reliance in small ways everyday:
These habits will help you feel in control and prepare you for living independently, even while you’re still at home.
Turning 18 doesn’t automatically make you self-sufficient, and your family may not immediately treat you like an adult. This can be frustrating but remember they’re adjusting too. Open, honest communication is key. If you feel overwhelmed or like your independence isn’t being respected, have an honest conversation with your family before it turns into a bigger issue.
Finding a place at home where you can recharge, ideally somewhere quiet and private, is very important. This might be your bedroom, or a shared space used during specific times. If you don’t have a private space to yourself, work with your family to set aside quiet time when you need it. Understanding each other’s routines can go a long way in preventing conflicts.
Living with your family as an adult can be a positive, practical arrangement. It allows you to build life skills, grow your independence, and maintain strong relationships in a supportive environment. The key is to be willing to take on adult responsibilities, communicate openly, and respect both your own and your family’s boundaries.
